What you think and speak all the time has a huge influence on your life. Because you focus on the things, you think and speak about. That's the natural behavior.
The way you think and speak is mostly influenced from your parents, siblings, teachers and any other significant person during your childhood. Some other important events during your life also have a huge impact. Things like 9/11, a heavy accident, birth of a child or other events.
When people look at their life and wonder why this and that happen to them in life. They are not aware of this correlation between the influence in the childhood and the current outcome in life. This unawareness is an obstacle when you want to create a better outcome for your life.
How To Change The Way You Think And Speak
When you want to improve your life, you have to start with yourself. I know from my own experience that this is not always so easy. First, you have to get aware of where you are at the moment. You can’t physically see and experience anything outside of you that is not you.
Your Life Is Always A Reflection Of Yourself
As I mentioned above, your beliefs, values, attitude, and behavior are influenced by your surroundings. Just make a list of the circumstances you are in, right now. Be brutally honest with yourself
When you have this list, think about the circumstances of your parents, friends and any other important person in your life. Compare your list with the life they have. Maybe something comes into your mind that your teacher said to you all the time. Do you see how the correlation?
This was now the first step. Now it's time to think about what you want in the future. What should your life look like in 3 months, six months, one year, and in 3 years? Take a notepad and write it down. For each month and year a separate sheet. Describe all the areas in your life where you want to have a different outcome and describe how it should be. Do it right now.
Congratulation on doing the work. You are now on the way to the life you want. Now you are clear where you want to go in the future. And this is an important step to achieving your dreams. The next step is to make a plan for the first three months. What are the steps you have to do to achieve your three-month goal? What are the things you have to learn? Are there any books you have to read, meet certain people? List them all in your 3-month plan.
The more you think about your three-month goal and later the six-month, one-year, and 3-year life plan, the more you focus on the things you want. You will realize that they take on more space in your thinking and when you speak to other people and in the self-talk. And the more you think and speak about it, the more likely is it that you get what you want.
But one warning I have to make here. To think and speak about what you want doesn't make the changes when you don't take the actions you should take to achieve it. For example, when you know that you should speak more often with your partner about the things that have to change to improve the relationship, and you don't do it, nothing happens. So take action according to your plan to improve your life in the way you want it. You can also read my post about how you improve your life through the power of words.
„A mind once stretched to a new dimension can never return to its original shape again.” – Olive Wendall Holmes